it’s okay to want a relationship where sex isn’t a big part of it and there’s very little to no sexual intimacy shared between you and your partner
but it’s also okay to want a relationship where sharing sexual intimacy between you and your partner is a big part of a fulfilling relationship for you two
not wanting to have sex be a part of your relationship isn’t “selfish” and needing the intimacy that comes with a fulfilling sexual relationship isn’t “inherently acephobic” or “gross”
different people have different needs when it comes to romantic and sexual intimacy and relationships, and theres nothing wrong with that.
and if your partner is trying to guilt you into staying in an unfulfilling relationship where your needs don’t align or into doing something you dont want to do (sexually or romantically), please understand that that’s not okay and that’s definitely a huge red flag and you deserve better.
